Today we met our newest ally and friend-Tyler-the dog trainer. What a joy to have him come into our home and begin to guide us toward a saner "pet household". Our dogs are not awful, they just need more guidance and consistency than we have provided of late and, together, our lazy human habits and their bad dog habits, have left us all wanting.
I was fascinated to learn that it is our eyes that mean everything to a dog. They want our complete attention and it is through our eyes that we give them everything they are seeking. So, in beginning to train them to stop bad habits we have to look away from them and give them nothing with our eyes. I work with my students all the time on how to navigate around difficult personalities and situations, teaching the concept of giving "no energy" no attention, whatsover, to someone who is driving them to distraction. However, I had no earthly idea of how to do this with the four legged beasts that are part of our home. Sometimes, when we are right on top of something we just cannot see it properly; we are peering in at it too closely. We have to step back and ask for help from another set of eyes. Thank goodness for the Dog Whisperers among us.